Having false allegations publicly filed against you can be frightening and humiliating, particularly if you are already under the stress of a separation or divorce.
Take a deep breath and try to take a step back from your situation.
Find a friend, support group, therapist, or contact DwD where you can confidentially discuss, without judgment, what happened and what you are feeling. Often times allegations are embarrassing and outlandish causing the falsely accused to feel uncomfortable discussing them. Verbalizing what the accusations are will help identify what is truly significant and how to strategize to protect yourself and use the false allegations to your advantage.
Remember that what you are going through and what you are feeling is temporary.
The separation and divorce process can be overwhelming; it will not go on forever and you will be able to move on... eventually. Now is the time to ask for support if you need it. Family and friends can be of tremendous help emotionally. Speaking with someone who knows the court system, process, and has experience can help provide guidance, planning next steps, and putting a strategy in place to help you move forward.
Therapy
Enrolling in therapy (if you are not already) can be very beneficial for the following reasons:
- Emotional support as you deal with stresses unlike any other you have faced in life
- The court looks favorably upon someone who has sought help to make the process as cordial as possible
- Finding a therapist who specializes in identifying symptoms of what you have been accused of can help debunk your ex or STBE's claims
- For example: If you have been accused of committing domestic violence, seeing a therapist that is an expert in identifying perpetrators and victims of domestic violence can influence the court with a letter or testimony in your favor.
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